QUOTESometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show upRené Brown
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ISABELLE, LIFE AND HEALTH COACH
Everyone talks about it, especially now that Thanksgiving is just around the corner!
Everyone knows how gratitude can improve our life and relationships with ourselves but also with others.
It has been scientifically proven that gratitude WILL improve our everyday routine, stress levels, concentration and focus, even our health.
The first time I heard about gratitude was when I started to study Positive Psychology. Martin Seligman was “prescribing” to all of his patients in therapy, homework. The homework was to write down every night in a journal, the 3 things in your day you were grateful for.
Falling asleep after writing these 3 positive and grateful things was the promise of a better sleep and better dreams for me. I started the practice and fell in love with it. It does take a little time and energy at the beginning and for some people it might be hard at first. Persevere, the prize is so much greater than the effort.
I shared my findings with my classmates, my colleagues, my friends, my husband and my kids. We even had a family gratitude journal laying around for a while. The kids would just either write or draw in it! Pretty cool.
A few weeks ago I had the chance to take this experience further. My husband and I did were beta testers for a program called “improve your couple’s relationship”. The program was 4 weeks long. I had to do little things for him and he had to do little things for me. We both received every week separate emails. Funny enough neither one of us noticed what had been assigned since we were already doing all those things in our life! But the last assignment was to write each other a letter of gratitude and to pick a date to read it to one another.
It is a great way to put words on your feelings, on letting your emotions free and rise strong. It is also a great tool for some people to release their past. The letter has a bigger impact if we read it but sometimes, you need to write them to deceased loved ones.
This was a POWERFUL and AMAZING experience. I sat one afternoon and started writing… I could not stop…. There was so much to be said, so much gratitude for our relationship, for my husband. I cried so much writing this letter, tears of gratitude and joy.
I LOVE this man, I tell him everyday and have for the past 24 years but for some reason this letter was so much more than just saying it, more than a hug, more than a look or an understanding, it was more sparkles in my life and butterfly in my stomach!
My husband and I had dinner in front of our fireplace and read our love and gratitude letters. I cried when he read his because I felt so special, so loved, so unique and just so lucky. I cried when I read his too because all these emotions came back.
A gratitude letter, especially if you read it to the recipient is an amazing gift and this is what I will people for Christmas as a gift hoping that it will stir emotions and feelings it did for me because it felt pretty damn good!
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